“I feel too old”

By Saloni Nahar

And as you read this…you are only getting older. The thing about time is no matter how much we’d love to control it, sadly going through our life doesn’t operate like watching a Bollywood film. We don’t get to rewatch parts of it, skip certain songs, or pause in between scenes. The decisions we’ve made up to this point have brought us to where we are, but that doesn’t mean it has to define where we’re going. The mindset of “feeling too old” can be a hindrance especially if it makes you feel behind or stops you from starting something in the first place.

I want you to stop reading for a minute and think of something you’ve always wanted to do, but never really gave an honest shot. Think as big or as small as you want.

Here’s an image to block you from continuing on reading and letting you actually think about it.

(credits: Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge: A powerful moment in Bollywood cinematic history after Simran’s dad gave her permission to go after the person she wanted to be with)

 Whether you took the time to think about it or not, here are some examples:

-starting a YouTube channel

-achieving a certain fitness goal

-learning a specific language

The purpose of this article is to remind you it’s never too late and you’ll never be too old to do any of those things.

Here are a few steps to consider when going after something you’ve always wanted:

1. Check in with yourself

Meditate or journal on this goal and figure out what has stopped you in the past. Has your South Asian identity played a factor in what you believe are your strengths and weaknesses? Have your friends or family had an impact on what you think you’re capable of? Have you failed multiple times and convinced yourself this goal just isn’t attainable for you? (fun fact Steven Spielberg got rejected from the University of Southern California 3 times, but still became a filmmaker)

2. Build meaningful relationships

Once you’ve accepted that you’re going to go after something, whether it’s the first time or the tenth time, it is really helpful to have company on your journey. These can be people who have already accomplished what you want to do or who are also in the process of trying. You can DM these people on Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter, etc. Most people know the saying “you’re the summation of the 5 people you spend the most time with”. The more time you spend talking to people who have similar aspirations, the more it will become incorporated in your life.

3. Write down one small step

Now that you’ve decided you’re going to get started, it is time to actually start. What does starting look like? Starting as small as possible might be easiest here. Even if it’s spending 5 minutes at whatever it is you’re working towards, you’ll be further along on your journey than you were yesterday. As the days go by, figure out how you can allocate more time or tweak your process. 

The “life is short” mindset might motivate you to make a big decision like moving to a new city or switching jobs. But the “life is long” mindset will help you recognize that you’re in control of things that take more time and energy than a one-time decision.  

Because wherever you are in your journey today, remember that

“Picture abhi baaki hai mere dost.”

About Saloni

Saloni enjoys meeting new people, story telling, and self improvement. She loves to engage in meaningful discussions that allow her to grow and gain new perspectives.

Please feel free to send her a message if you would like to connect 🙂 

Instagram: @suhhhloni

Website: youtube.com/saloninaharContact Information: salnahar@gmail.com

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